Understanding our Emotions...

   

       In my practice as a Psychologist  I've always observed that unexpressed and unhealed emotions causes a lot of mess!! I feel emotions are like money if you invest at the wrong place or at wrong time it will always led to loss. The same way stored emotions come back to you in a while with interest.

       We all  need to break this cycle of carrying emotional baggage. The way we clean our home we also need to clean our body and mind, which is a home for our thoughts and soul. I feel our body is the most important home in this entire life time which we need to protect. In spite of being quite aware of this fact why do we ignore it?? I've heard a lot many people say time heals everything!!so does that mean we ignore the situation or the emotions will heal on it's own?? the answer is No!! I feel every individual needs to take the responsibility of healing themselves and not just leave it on time. We fear facing the situations because most of the times either we feel we won't be able to handle whatever comes up on the surface so ignoring it or blocking them seems more comfortable. I have observed we are taught to ignore what hurts rather than to face it. We are being trained and conditioned to cover-up the concerns or to not get in trouble at all. If we don't face the concerned issues or at times don't get messed up, how are we supposed to learn??I don't mean to say invite unnecessary situations in your life but we learn only through our or at times others mistakes.

      Hardly few people are aware of what they exactly feel. The first and the most important step towards being aware of our feelings is accepting we are feeling something. Secondly to stop converting our emotions for e.g. most people get angry when they are actually feeling hurt or maybe a lot of people cry when they are expressing their anger. So we need to accept what we are truly feeling. Thirdly start expressing what you feel as precisely as possible, let it be raw!! And last start respecting our and others emotions. Most of the time we are out of balance, either by excessively focusing on others emotions or our emotions. There needs to be balance, respect is mutual it's a give an take process.  I feel a lot of times healthy and open communication helps in dealing with most of our concerns. Everyone needs to be encouraged to talk about their feelings.

      I feel if we all contribute towards taking responsibility of ourselves and our life situations, things would be more in harmony with each other. We all need to take ownership our life. We all need to learn to be committed to ourselves first than we can be committed to others around us in it's true sense. Let's start being authentic in it's true sense.

Love and Light to all.